Energetic Consent and Contracts

Still Tied to Something That's Over?

How Consent and Energetic Contracts Might Be Holding You Back

Have you ever ended a relationship but still felt emotionally tied to the person? Left a job but kept replaying conversations with your boss? Walked away from something long ago but can't seem to move on?

You're not imagining it.

Just because something is over doesn't mean the energy has left your system.

What is an energetic contract?

An energetic contract is a kind of invisible agreement. Sometimes you make them consciously. A promise. A commitment. A spoken vow. Other times they form without you realising. Through loyalty, pressure, trauma or repeated patterns.

You might still be bound by:

A relationship you ended years ago
A role you used to play in your family or workplace
A decision you made when you were younger
A silent agreement to keep the peace or protect someone else
Guilt, obligation or unspoken loyalty that keeps you tied in

These contracts don't always show up in your thoughts. They show up in your energy. In the way your body feels. In how your choices narrow. In where your energy leaks.

What does consent have to do with it?

Consent isn't always about saying yes or no. It's about energy. It's about what you've agreed to, consciously or not, and how that agreement still plays out in your life.

You may have given consent:

Under pressure
Without understanding the full impact
As a child or in a past version of yourself
In a spiritual setting you no longer align with

You may still be giving consent now. Through silence. Through habit. Through guilt or fear. Even if it's costing you energy, freedom or self-trust.

How do I know if something is still active?

Ask yourself:

Do I feel tied to something or someone even though it ended?
Do I keep repeating the same emotional patterns in new relationships?
Do I feel drained, obligated or stuck without knowing why?
Do I say yes when I want to say no or freeze instead of acting?
Do I feel like something is still running in the background of my life?

If you said yes to any of these, it's likely an old agreement is still active in your system.

Why cord cutting doesn't always work

There's a lot of talk about energetic cord cutting but if it hasn't worked for you, you're not alone.

Many people try cord cutting meditations or rituals and find only temporary relief. That's often because they're trying to cut a cord without fully addressing the contract underneath it.

Think of the cord as the rope. The contract is the reason it was tied in the first place.

If the contract is still active, the cord will regrow. Again, and again.

You don't need to carry it all.

Once you learn how to spot these old ties and how to release them, things start to shift. You reclaim choice. Your energy returns. The pattern breaks.

Ready to go deeper?

If this resonates, you might want to explore our Consent and Contracts Workshop.

It's a one-day online workshop that helps you:

Understand how consent and contracts shape your energy
Learn how to revoke outdated agreements
Release energetic ties from relationships, roles or past versions of yourself
Reclaim your personal power and ability to choose

You'll get practical tools, real-world examples and guided exercises to help you make clear energetic changes.

👉Consent and Contracts Workshop

Kanina Wolff is the director of Your Natural Self, a teaching space for intuitive development, energetic awareness and spiritual education. YNS offers classes, workshops and one-to-one support for people at all stages of their development, from beginners to advanced students and practitioners.

Her teaching draws on deep experience in spirit release, psychic development, energy management and spiritual counselling. She works across a wide range of themes including trauma, spiritual crisis and energetic boundaries.

Students choose to learn with Kanina because her teaching is practical, trauma-informed and rooted in real experience. She teaches people how to recognise what's shaping their energy, how to work with it and how to move forward, not just spiritually but in real life.

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